Have you ever been in one of those awkward sex situations where you're not sure if you're doing the right thing? You know, that time you were going down on someone and they made a noise but you couldn't work out if it was a 'I'm about to cum' noise or a 'that really hurts' noise? Have you ever suddenly had that anxious mid-sex thought 'but what if they're not really enjoying this? What if I'm not doing it properly?'
Sex takes practice and because everyone is different it's sometimes pretty tricky to work out how to please a new partner. Consent is a big deal too - how do you make sure you're not doing anything your partner dislikes? Not everyone can speak up and say exactly what they do and don't want. If you miss something in the moment, you risk hurting your partner. And even if you're doing everything right, feeling anxious about you performance really gets in the way of enjoying yourself.