Lesson 1: The five basic principles of seeing escorts

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(This is the same stuff I talk about in the video, above.)

This is our first lesson – five basic principles for seeing escorts, that will help you when you’re stuck.

When you’re dealing with escorts and you don’t know what to do, these ideas will get you through. Once you understand these, you won’t have to memorise a whole lot of rules or information. If you don’t learn this stuff, you might screw up as soon as something unexpected happens.

I’m a big fan of keeping it simple. So here are the five things to remember that will make things easy. We’ll be coming back to these ideas again and again throughout the course.

1. Sex work is work.

This is your reality check, it’s just a job. People make escorting out to be some sort of shady enterprise, but it’s really just another type of business. Treat us like any other businessperson.

2. It takes two to tango.

Escorts are people too, and we will react to your behaviour. If you want to have a great escort date, you get out what you put in. I’m not saying you need to be perfect – after all, you’re paying for us to take charge and look after you. But a bit of effort to be friendly (and a bit of effort in the sack) will go a long way.

3. Give yourself a break.

We’re often really hard on ourselves, especially when it comes to sex. You might feel ashamed about seeing escorts or feel a lot of pressure to perform. Don’t do this, guys. Sex is normal and natural, and you don’t have to be some sort of crazy sex machine to have a good time. 

4. Stick to best practice.

Every escort has their own way of doing things but, regardless, trying to be professional is going to mean a better booking. So follow these guidelines, and then check in with your escort to see if there’s anything else they need.

5. And if all else fails, just be honest…

We’re used to seeing people who don’t know what to do. If you’re stuck, anxious or confused it’s totally fine to admit it. A good escort will always be willing to help you out once you’ve arranged a booking.

So now you’ve got your very own escort magic – you can apply this stuff to almost every possible situation and work out what to do. One of the best things about seeing escorts is that it’s different every time, depending on the person, the day and what you both decide to get up to. With this info, you don’t have to feel anxious if you suddenly aren’t sure of something.

Now it’s time to get into the specifics of your escort date. We start right at the beginning, with how to get prepared beforehand…

Words to know

  • Sex worker – someone who provides sexual (or sexually suggestive services) in exchange for payment.
  • Independent escort – a sex worker providing in-person sessions involving sexual services, who manages their own business and arranges their own bookings.
  • Escort date / session / booking – these are all words used to describe the time you spend with an escort or sex worker.

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